A Whole New Life

When I started attending Al-Anon 12 years ago, I had no idea recovery was for me. I went to that first meeting because my therapist said she could no longer help me. She suggested I go to Al-Anon.

I thought Al-Anon would give me the magical solution I needed to get the man I loved to stop drinking. If he stopped, I was sure we could have a long, happy life together. Until I attended Al-Anon, I didn't realize that my own behavior affected my family, friends, and job.

The Al-Anon members welcomed me into the rooms and guided me through the pain and fear that had taken control of my life. I found a new way to live. Although the relationship between me and the man I desperately loved ended, my life is a happy one. I can acknowledge that I will always love him, while at the same time I know I have the right to more out of life.

I came to Al-Anon to save one relationship and instead all of my relationships have improved—old and new. I have a good relationship with my sister and brother-in-law, even though my brother-in-law’s drinking greatly affects their family. Because I’ve learned so much in Al-Anon, I still participate in my niece and nephew’s lives while staying out of their family business.

The relationship I have with my mother and father is better than it ever was before Al-Anon. I actually interact with my parents as the 40-year-old I am, rather than the 13-year-old I was years ago. By using the great tools of Al-Anon, I love and accept my parents as they are, which helps me avoid becoming resentful.

My friendships have improved, too. People actually want to be friends with me! I have a whole new life thanks to Al-Anon—better late than never!

By Cindy P., Indiana
The Forum, December 2005